Life is complicated and very difficult, and parenting is one of those facets of life that never gets any easier. To be responsible for a life, without exerting undue pressure and recognizing that your children have lives of their own, is a delicate balance. Sometimes it seems that balance is impossible to achieve. Emotional vulnerability, on the side of both parent and child, can help restore and protect it.
First, what does it mean? To be emotionally vulnerable? It means to put down your guard and your stoicism. It means acknowledging your fear and other negative emotions.
In a busy, interconnected world likes ours, it isn’t easy to find the time to be introspective. Nor is it easy to come to terms with feelings of inadequacy. Parents often feel they have to put up ‘a strong face’ when dealing with their children. In turn, children don’t always understand the anxiety and panic of their parents. They feel like they don’t have anyone to relate to when they feel vulnerable and alone and this causes more strife if they act outwards or retreat inwardly.
Relationships, of any kind, require honesty. This honesty has to be of the emotional kind as well. When you build up walls, and hide behind a veneer of stolidity, the person you are trying to build a relationship with will distrust you. How can your child trust you if you aren’t even honest about your feelings to yourself?
Take a look at this excerpt from popular psychology website HeySigmund:
“Without vulnerability, relationships struggle. Vulnerability is, ‘Here I am – my frayed edges, my secrets, my fears, my affection. Be careful – they’re precious.’ In return, it invites, ‘Oh, I see you there. It’s okay, you’re safe. And here – here’s me.’ It builds trust, closeness and a sense of belonging. Relationships won’t thrive without it.”
Emotional vulnerability is important for children as well. Considering how stressful it is to juggle schoolwork, extra-curriculars and hobbies in the increasingly competitive 21st century, it’s no wonder children are feeling more stressed out than ever before. A recent study showcased on the Indian Pediatrics website reported that “Adolescents who had academic stress were at 2.4 times higher risk of depression than adolescents without academic stress.”
Academic stress must be reduced therefore, in order to lower depression amongst adolescents.
Children need to feel that they can be honest about their schoolwork. Parents need to understand that they cannot exert too much pressure on their children to do well in school. When they do, children may not feel comfortable discussing academic difficulties. This leads to further stress as they get frustrated and feel scared that they are disappointing their parents.
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